Juliet is joined by:
Ian Haworth,
founder and current general secretary of the Cult Information Centre, a
non-sectarian educational charity based in London, England. He has
worked full-time as a specialist in cults since 1979 and is a former
cult member.
Lynne Wallis,
who has written extensively for newspapers on cults and families
affected by new religious movements – cults – including an article for
the Times Educational Supplement in 2008 called 'Cult Watch' detailing the danger cults pose to young people.
Natacha Tormey, author
of ‘Born into the Children of God: My Life in a Religious Sex Cult’ and
‘Cults: The Bloodstained History of Organised Religion’. Natacha Tormey
was born and raised within The Children of God, a religious cult that
became infamous for its bizarre sexual practices and religious
doctrines. Natacha escaped at 18.
How did you leave?
NT:
“It was quite a long process, so the doubt started when I was 14 years
of age when most teenagers are starting their rebellious years, so to
speak. Obviously, on top of the usual teenage angst I had that
additional circumstance of being, living in a cult… At that time we were
in France – it was very difficult because we had to, kind of, hide
everything we did all the time. Live, but in secrecy, and never talk
about what was going on at home or that we were part of a cult. That’s
really when all of my doubts started.”
“As I got older,
going on to 16 – 17, I started to have a little bit more interaction
with the outside world and slowly I began to realise just how strange my
living situation was. By the time I reached 18, that was it…”
Did you have interaction with the outside world at any point in your time there?
NT:
“Up until the age of 13 almost none. So, in Thailand and the Asian
countries that we lived in, we lived in very big communes, sometimes of
100 – 150 people. Very much your typical compound community – you’ve got
very high walls, big security gates… It was a very well-run operation
in the sense that they managed to go unnoticed with these huge communes
living together. They didn’t actually attract that much attention, but
obviously, children weren’t allowed to leave the compound. When we did,
it was very rare and we would always be supervised by adults either to
go fundraising by doing shows or things like that.”
“So,
it [contact with the outside world] was very minimal for the first 13
years. And then when we moved to France. Obviously there you couldn’t
have those kinds of big communes – they would have been noticed straight
away. It was very small – usually just my family and then one or two
other people, so there was obviously more freedom. They couldn’t watch
us all the time… We had very small interactions and then by the time I
reached 16, I was kind of jumping out my window at night…”
What
were the questions you were asking yourself when you were there? You
started questioning your existence within this cult at 13 to 18 and at
18 you were jumping out the window, wanting to leave – was there a
catalyst for this?
NT: “Well, a
very key moment, obviously the doubt started slowly, was in 2000 when
they predicted, I think it was the third or the fourth prediction of the
end of the world… And it didn’t happen. We were all extremely afraid on
New Year’s Eve. We had a stash of food, we were prepared for Armageddon
basically, and yet again it didn’t happen. That, for me, was kind of
the final straw. That’s when I really realised that this is just all
lies and none of it is true.”
You’d wake up in the morning, and what would be expected of you?
NT:
“It would depend on which period we’re talking about. In Thailand,
where it was much stricter in those kinds of communes, all the children
were separated into groups and we all had very strict schedules. So it
was – you wake up, you’ve got ten minutes to make your bed and get
dressed. All the kids wore uniforms and whoever was looking after us we
would call auntie or uncle. It was just very-very regimented. Everyone
was marched downstairs in single file for breakfast. You had a certain
amount of time to eat and then everyone was marched back upstairs. Many
hours had been spent reading – either the stories from the Bible or
publications from the leader Berg [David Brandt Berg] or Zerby [Karen
Zerby]. In some homes you had school time which again is not really
school. Apart from learning how to read and write it was all based
around the cult leader’s theology and his beliefs. All of our education
about history and science was all according to the cult leader’s
version, with a lot of religion mixed in.”
Ian Haworth, what made you set up the Cult Information Centre and would you say it’s very widely used and known?
IH:
“It is known internationally and it’s very easy to find in the UK just
by going online. What provoked me to set up the centre is that I came
back to the UK in 1987 from Canada where I’d been doing this – I set up
the first charity of this kind there. So what really provoked me to get
into the field is what provoked me to set up the first charity in
Canada, which was called COMA – Council on Mind Abuse. And it was just
that I’d gone through a nightmare experience in a group. I’d only been
in a group for two and a half weeks and I managed to escape, thanks to a
journalist. It took me eleven months to recover and in that recovery
time the tragic deaths in Jonestown, Guyana occurred where 913 people
died following the orders of Jim Jones. I realised that that could have
happened to me. I could relate to those people...”
“When
the Canadian media started to ask – is this a problem in our country? I
went forward and said – yes it is… That led to a lot of media coverage
and then my desire to try and be involved in an educational process to
try and warn people. That’s how it all started.”
You called it mind abuse. Is this something that we don’t really understand?
IH:
“Most people have no idea what constitutes psychological coercion or
mind control, or radicalisation. I’m using my terms carefully because
radicalisation, although it’s usually used in connection with terrorist
groups, it’s the same thing as what we’ve been describing as mind
control or psychological coercion or thought reform for many years.”
“People are processed to become terrorists. People are processed to become cult victims.”
“In
my case, I was 31 when I was recruited into a group. I was theirs… I
was completely under their control by the third day. I mention this
because I want to emphasise how quick this process is. After just two
evenings and one morning on a course in Toronto – I was theirs. I gave
them all the money I had, dedicated my life to it and resigned from my
job. As you know, I fortunately managed to escape very quickly thanks to
a journalist helping me.”
Do you think in Britain, there is a lack of understanding of the techniques used in mind abuse?
IH:
“Well of course ‘it’s never going to happen to me’ is normally the
attitude. I think people that do consider what a cult might be assume
that it’s probably some kind of strange organisation that will be
visually identifiable, that a cult recruiter will therefore be obvious
when he or she approaches you, that probably the people that are
recruited are not very intelligent, they’re probably on drugs anyway and
people make all kinds of excuses as to why someone would join. What
we’re saying is that people don’t join, they are recruited instead. And
they’re recruited through subtle techniques and the techniques work and
work very effectively.”
“The easiest people to recruit
tend to be well-educated people. People with average to above average
intelligence and they think it would never happen to them. The safest
seem to be the very seriously mentally ill which isn’t very comforting.”
Lynne Wallis, what made you write about cults?
LW:
“It was a long time ago when I started actually – probably more than 15
years. I think I met somebody who lost her daughter to a group,
probably better not mention their name. Her daughter had been working in
a West End department store, she’d just left university, she was new to
London… I think this is a very common time for people to be recruited,
when they’re in a new city and they’re vulnerable, sometimes when they
just start university. She came one evening and said she’d been invited
to a women’s meeting at Wembley and it turned out to be a recruitment
fair for this particular group and very-very quickly she was sucked in.
This woman Betty, her daughter was receiving messages on her mobile, she
was being loved. She was being told she was awesome and within about a
month she’d lost weight, she wasn’t eating properly, she lost her sense
of humour… In other words, she’d undergone a complete personality
transformation. She’d really had her own personality sucked out of her
and everything had been replaced by values of this group.”
“Then
I met Ian Haworth and he put stories my way sometimes and I’ve written
and interviewed probably scores, not hundreds, but scores of ex-members
of groups, but also families who’ve lost sons and daughters.”
As
a journalist what would you say is the legacy you’ve witnessed that
these cults have had on individuals and families you mention? You’re
highlighting an issue – do you think it needs to be highlighted further?
LW:
“I think it does. I think awareness is very-very low. I think Ian is
absolutely right that everyone says it could never happen to me. It
could happen to anyone at a particular time in their lives when they’re
vulnerable. I think it should probably be on the curriculum – kids going
off to university, their parents warn them about STDs, drugs and
alcohol but whoever thinks to tell them about the damage these groups
can do? Even the parents think it can’t happen to their children.”
“I think it really is high-time that something should be done because this has being going on too long…”
IH:
“This is one of the things that we do. We go out and give lectures. I’m
spending an entire day this week at a school that has this on the
curriculum but as Lynne has suggested that’s not necessarily the norm.
But I do go around various schools and colleges and sometimes
universities to talk about this phenomenon. I sometimes speak to
professional groups as well because they’re losing people to the cults. A
lot of people imagine that the typical recruit is young but it happens
at all ages. Captains of industries are being recruited into cults as
well.”
It sounds like a very aggressive style of recruitment. Could you tell me more about that?
IH:
“Everyone that’s recruited is programmed to understand that this is the
greatest thing since sliced bread. Your critical abilities are now
severely impaired and so if the group says that two and two is seven, it
is and you excitedly share that with people.”
“The two
main goals seem to be to bring in money and to bring in people. It’s
quite normal to be sent out to recruit others. Now, if you were in a
cult that we would call a therapy cult where you stay in your job, then
you’d be doing that after hours and on weekends. If you’re in your
typical religious cult where you’re working for the group full-time then
you’re doing that [recruiting] full-time. You’re constantly going out
there and trying to recruit people usually by, unfortunately, lying to
them and misrepresenting what it is that you stand for. If people that
you’re talking to ask questions then you’ll be very vague all of a
sudden about what’s really going on because they just want you to cross
the threshold and then a psychological door closes behind you.”
“As
Lynne was saying, you become someone else… It’s interesting we’re doing
Voice of Russia because I often compare this with Russian dolls. The
real you is now covered over by a new personality. That’s the outer
doll, if you will, and that’s the one that interacts with family and
friends and the world. The real you, however, the good news is, is
inside. Getting that real you out is another matter altogether and
there’s no guarantee that that will ever happen…”
LW:
“…And in this recruitment process I think quite early on anyone who
dares to challenge anything that is said by any of the leaders in one of
their brainwashing mind control obsessions, punishment and reward is
introduced. Someone will be shunned, maybe ostracised if they’d dare to
disagree. Obviously in any kind of healthy environment, perhaps in an
actual proper cosier religion, questioning is encouraged, but within
these groups it’s quashed very early on.”
Natacha, having heard from both Ian and Lynne, why do you think people don’t understand cults or are scared to talk about them?
NT:
“I think what Ian is saying is completely correct. I think people
underestimate how powerful cults are when it comes to recruitment. So,
if we take the Children of God for example, who still exist today or
even back when I was a teenager, they operated in African countries
under fake names. They had humanitarian organisations with completely
different names to the Children of God or Family International which
they are now called. They’d be out there – these homes with all these
young couples with kids, aged 20 to 30, all living together, having a
great time, doing all this humanitarian work.”
“For
many young people who would bump into them it would be like ‘why, this
is amazing, I could do something with my life, I can help others and
help save the world!’ But behind all of that is a completely different
story. Once you get pulled in through that exciting new world very
quickly the trap closes and you find out that actually you only saw the
tip of the iceberg here – now you’re going to see the real deal. But by
then, it’s usually too late. You’re completely sucked in and it’s very
difficult to get out after that.”
“Like Lynne was
saying – voicing doubts… Anyone who dares to voice doubts even at the
beginning, either they’ll be completely rejected or punished. In a
psychological way it’s a means of control and is a warning to other
members that you cannot contradict the leadership. So, often in the
Children of God for example, people who were considered severe doubters
would be separated from their spouse or their children…”
“One
thing I talk about in my book is when my mother dared to defend one of
her children who was being very harshly physically disciplined by other
aunties and uncles in the home, and she dared to say something against
it and was sent to Chelyabinsk for six months when she was pregnant…”
“High
radiation, minus forty degrees – she was being taught a lesson by the
leadership that this is what will happen to you and we can keep you
there if we want to and we can send you somewhere else and you may never
see your children again. And this was as much a lesson to my father,
who was left behind as ‘you better keep your wife in check.’ So it’s all
these psychological things, but all done in a very, how do you call
it…”
LW: “It’s for your own good.”
NT:
“Yes, it’s for your own good. This is the Lord trying to teach you a
lesson. This is good for you, this is good for your family, it will make
you a better disciple, etc.”
What is like when you speak to the families?
LW:
“They’re devastated… It’s like a living bereavement. If that person is
still in the group and there’s all sorts of conflicting advice about
whether you should try and get the child out, they normally have an
incredibly hard time making contact – someone else will answer the phone
or they’re not around. They just don’t know what to do. They are at a
loss… Sometimes that child, their green light will come on and they’ll
come out and have some counselling or something. But I know several
families who have had sons and daughters in for years and I think, I
don’t know if this is right Ian, but isn’t it true that the longer
they’re in, the less likely it is that they will come out – is that
right?”
IH: “Not as far as I’m
concerned. Some people do say that, you’re quite right. I’ve never said
that. Some have said in the past that after a particular point in time,
that’s it. But I’ve never seen any kind of need for saying that. I’ve
known people who have come out of cults after 30 years and have fully
recovered…”
Is it possible for everyone to recover? Have you found your recovery path through writing a book was therapeutic Natacha?
NT:
“Definitely! Writing the book was the final step in my healing process,
but I’ve been out of the cult for twelve years now and it’s taken that
long. It’s like Lynne was saying earlier, the process of manipulation
for someone who joins a cult is stripping down that personality and
replacing it with this cult personality. But when you’re born into a
cult, you never have the chance to form that personality at the start.
So the road to recovery and the first big question is – who am I? What
is my personality? You don’t even know who you are as a person! What
kind of clothes do I like to wear? What’s my style? Everything has to be
learned from scratch about yourself and then after that you can start
properly healing. But it takes years and it’s taken me years to go
through that, and finally get to a point where I actually know who I am
and I’m comfortable with it. I can move on…”
If
you had a chance to speak to those people who are on the cusp of
wanting to change, who are in the same cult you were in, what would you
say?
NT: “…I’d say that I know
how scary it is to even contemplate facing a world that you’ve never
known or that you’ve lost touch with for many years. But once you get
out there you realise that there’s actually nothing to be afraid about
and that there’s actually a lot of people who understand. And who won’t
judge you! And I think that’s a big thing! Especially people who have
joined a cult voluntarily – they feel like somehow no one’s going to
understand, they’re going to blame me, they’re going to think I was
stupid, that I deserve whatever happens to me. People don’t see it like
that. There are plenty of professionals out there and institutes like
the Cult Information Centre that are there to help! And they understand
and know that you’re victims, you’re not actually thinking in your right
mind. So, it’s really not judging yourself and accepting that you are a
victim and you need help… I think that’s the biggest difficulty for
some.”
IH:” There is another thing
here and that is, it’s not the best thing to put on your CV when you’re
looking for a job. That’s one of the problems here because there are a
lot of high-profile people who are ex-cult members who would not dare do
what Natacha’s bravely doing, and talk about their story.”
“I
know a senior partner in a major law firm in this city who is an
ex-cult member. And I know other people in other similar institutions,
and there are teachers and there are doctors who are ex-cult members.
It’s not something you really want to broadcast because you might lose
some clients, if not all of them…”
“And yet, there are, as Natacha says, lots of people who are aware of the phenomenon and help is available.”
Do the right people seem to understand the level of exploitation of this mind abuse?
IH:
“No, I don’t believe they do. The mental health profession is sorely
lacking in an understanding of this phenomenon. There used to be one
psychiatrist in Britain that was really good and could help just about
anybody. Sadly she died about five years ago. There is another
psychiatrist now that is up on this, but because she works on the NHS
she can only deal with clients in a limited geographic area. There are
very-very few mental health professionals that begin to understand the
phenomenon but there are a small handful of people that do.”
“There
are a couple of people with a background in psychology that are very
good at counselling people and they work inside our field and the
academic world as well. There are a couple of other people who
specialise in counselling cult victims and they’re trained counsellors
and they’re very good. But still, as a country, we’re really lacking in
understand this phenomenon and are way behind the rest of Europe,
unfortunately.”
When
you said the phenomenon, it is estimated there are five hundred to a
thousand cults [operating in Britain], what numbers would you quote?
IH:
“You’re quoting the figures that I would use and I am accused of being
conservative and I prefer to be that… But it’s a growing problem and it
is getting worse. Hopefully, it’s not as bad as it would be if there
weren’t voices like ours – that’s a hard thing to measure.”
“I
think if people started to recognise that cults are here to stay and
there’s a tremendous need to be a lot more discerning and just simply
question!”
“People spend a lot more time checking out a
new car than they do checking out a group that they may be interested
in getting involved with. A new car may break down but if it’s a cult,
you’ll be the one breaking down. It’s a completely different ballgame
and a very serious one.”
Finally, why do you think it might be getting worse?
LW:
“I’m not sure why but I think an awful lot of groups seem to be setting
up on the back of these health and wellbeing groups, and yoga groups.
Every single newspaper has a massive great health section full of this
‘neo new age’ sort of stuff. I’ve seen within that a growth of abusive
one-on-one relationships. Not a situation where a person gets sucked
into a group but where one person targets another and usually ends up
taking a vast amount of money from them. They usually target people who
have a vast amount of wealth.”
“I’ve interviewed three
or four people who have been in that situation. I don’t know… Maybe it
is the breakdown of religion and people not going to church anymore,
family breakdown but more importantly, there’s nothing really to stop
them. It’s unregulated – there isn’t a body that actually has any clue
and that can monitor these groups.”
“We are behind the
rest of Europe! Awareness is just incredibly low. I guess politically
it’s not a vote winner. It affects a relatively few number of people and
politicians don’t take the long-term view do they, they take the next
four years…”
IH: “For me there are two
issues here. One is, statistically if each person that’s recruited
becomes a recruiter and recruits four or five other people and that’s a
minimum, then cults are bound to grow at a tremendous rate, and they do…
But the other side of it is that as cults continue they become
wealthier and wealthier and they get the best lawyers in the cities and
there are lots of stories we give to the media that don’t see the light
of day. The journalist gets paid but it’s not published because people
don’t want to get sued. So that’s another aspect.”
“There is a control and there is an influence on the media, and that’s most unfortunate.”
Is
there a real lesson that you’ve learned that you would like to impart
or you think society as a whole would benefit from, especially in
Britain, where as Ian and Lynne say it’s very beneath the radar, with
tightly controlled media that is influenced by highly paid law firms who
are able to represent these new religious movements – what would your
lasting comments be?
NT: “I
think one of the big issues is people being afraid to trample on
religious freedom. There’s a fine line between overanalysing every
religious group – is it a cult, is it not, and where we are now – where
cults can operate so easily. Lynne was talking about new age groups and I
think it is one of the rising areas that cults will take advantage of,
to be able to recruit people. And it’s not a new thing! If you look back
at the Order of Solar Temple not so long ago who ended with something
like seventy suicides… They recruited exactly the same way! So Luc
Jouret – one of their two leaders, used to hold these conferences on
alternative medicine and new age healing methods and that’s how he
recruited a lot of very rich and very powerful people. I think it’s what
people need to be very aware of – a group or a person who just seems
overly caring, if you’re going through a difficult time or you’re
feeling lonely or you just had a loss, and you meet a group or several
people where there’s that instant ‘we love you, you are one of us’, and
I’m not saying that everyone should be paranoid or wary because the
world wouldn’t be a very nice place, but sometimes something that is too
good to be true is really too good to be true.”
“I
think awareness is the most important thing. That is what all of us here
are trying to do and there’s a long road to go before we get to a place
where people are actually aware of these dangers, are looking out for
them and not falling into the trap…”